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Thursday, December 31, 2015

Thank You, 2015!

I will say that 2015 was the best year of my life. For two very cute and precious reasons...

I guess when you have children, you become more aware of the time that escapes you. Considering the boys are now 8 months old, I look at them every day and ask myself, "Where did my little babies go?" They are growing up so fast, and already making big strides in their growth. Landon and Nathan can both stand and crawl, are excellent eaters, grant me many nights of sleep because they sleep through the night (I probably jinxed that now that I said this), and of course, make Mike and I so happy. It is truly instant love when you have a baby, and each day when I come home from work just gets better as they are excited to see me. All the changes that have come to our life have been things more interesting. Some for the better and some, well, just different. We roll with the punches and look forward to the future.

But, I have learned many new things this year that have open my eyes to this new time in my life.

1.  I am a mom, but I'm not Super Mom.

Being a mother was and still is a learning process. I don't have all the answers, but I do what I feel is best for the boys. I can't tell you how many times I've asked myself a question out loud just because the pure thought of figuring out the answer baffles me. I'm sure if the boys could communicate with me, I'd be better able to figure out what they need in those moments of crying. But, I do what I can, and do what I know. However, the sense of pride I have in myself knowing that I do all that I can to raise two happy little dudes in the best way I know how is rewarding.

2. There's never enough time for anything.

 This revelation pertains to two things in specific:

A. My blog.

I'm putting it out there - House Of Jeffers isn't my first priority. I still love blogging, I love writing, and I absolutely love playing dress up. But, I don't know many bloggers who have twins who also work full time. The days of going outside on a nice day to take photos has escaped me since my sons are my absolute priority. Their needs trump anything that is going on in my life. I have tried my hardest to sit down at the computer and pen interesting posts with visuals - but I haven't done a good job of it. I'm often tired from work, and then, have responsibilities for the boys that need to be addressed. By the time it's bedtime, I'm exhausted. Or, on the days when the weather does cooperate and I can go outside, something comes up where I can't pack the boys up to take photos. Maybe when the boys are at the point where we can take them for walks and do more things with them I'll have more opportunities to carry on with the blog like I want to. But for now, I have to fit House Of Jeffers in when I can. However, to compensate for the lack of posts here, I've been upping my game on Instagram at House Of Jeffers - where you can find me anytime. A small compromise, but still, an effort I"m trying to make.

B. My social life.

Um, what social life? Listen, I'm well into my mid-30s, and not that life is over, but I'm not interested in going out and spending money on things that I don't need, nor, do I need to go out partying since I'm married. But, the free moments I had for girl's night out are few and far between. I've had to miss out on lots of things and that's okay. It's part of being an adult and being a parent that I signed up for. I can only complain so much considering my family goes above and beyond to watch the boys when social engagements come up. My husband and I try our hardest to maintain as much of ourselves and our hobbies as possible, but parenting takes a precedence to anything else we have going on. Not many people can understand that, and may be mad at me for it. I can only say that when they are in my shoes, they'll know what I mean.

3. Being a mom doesn't mean I have to give up who I am.

The mom bun is not part of my style routine. I don't own a velour jumpsuit. I still wear heels.

I still put on my makeup, do my hair and of course, pick out an outfit to wear that says "Jen", but a stylish mom-version of her. 

Not all aspects of being a mom are glamorous, but that doesn't mean I have to rough it every morning in order to get the boys ready. Getting myself dressed and pampering myself in those small moments makes me feel like I'm more ready to take on the day. So while I might not get out of my PJs till 12 on a Sunday, when I do, I look like my normal self.

4. At the end of the day, nothing else matters except for your family's happiness.

Listen, things don't always go the way I plan. People sometimes turn out to be jerks, and let you down. But compared to what's going on at home - it's all trivial b.s. that will work itself out. As long as the people I love are happy - who cares about anything else? If you can't control it, don't waste your time worrying about it. That mantra is something I preach but don't always practice, so I have some catching up to do in 2016. 

But, 2015 was amazing. I loved every minute of it, and I hope you did, too. If not, you can always start over... and January 1 is a great place to start.

Have a wonderful, happy, amazing and adventurous 2016!

Monday, December 14, 2015

All In One

Seven months into being a mother, I'm finding that I still take pride in getting ready in the morning. I know that for some, it can be hard to put the energy into getting yourself dolled up to go to work, or even just take on the day, but that is the one thing I told myself I wouldn't let go of. After the boys have been fed, or are taking a nap on the weekend, I then make it habit of putting an effort into pulling myself together. That's not to say that if you are a mom who doesn't that you don't care about your appearance, because trust me, I have days when I have to half-ass getting ready for the sake of my children... I just find that being a mom doesn't mean I have to or need to let go of my former self.

With that being said, I do turn to clothing that is comfortable, practical, but yet, has something visual going on outside the norm of some of the things I wear. Take for instance, this pinafore. One part suspenders, one part dress, it gives the illusion that the outfit is really intricate when it fact all I did was put on a sweater and put a dress over it. The sweater has a Peter Pan collar so again, it looks like I put on two shirts for effect, but really, it's all in one. 

I hope you all are having a great holiday season. As you can imagine, and as you can probably tell from the lack of updates on the blog, I have so much going on between work and the babies. I do miss blogging, and I do miss the routine I had on the weekend to prep for blog photos, but it is so hard for me to find time literally outside of my home to go outside and take photos. I won't risk taking the boys outside on cold days, and it's not fair of me to get the twins bundle up just so I can take my photos; my sweet husband has offered to do this for me numerous times a a result of the guilt I feel for not maintaining House Of Jeffers. I just can't. So, I find time... Key word "find". 

If you are a mom blogger, I would love to know your secret on how you make time to take photos for your blog when you have a newborn. And this isn't just rhetorical question - I would love to hear from you. Please email me at! I am desperately struggling to maintain the blog, and if I can find a way to still deliver great content while taking care of the boys, I'm all ears.

Red Pinafore - ASOS / Polka Dot Sweater - Forever 21 / Leather Jacket - Forever 21 / Fringe Saddle Bag - Steve Madden / Leopard Print Shoes - BCBGeneration / Leggings - Francesca's